Happy Wife, Happy Helper!

Having that relationship, having that open communication. I think for us, if the home life is a mess, especially I think when we’re going out there, building a business or a career, working, and when we come home, we want a sanctuary, we want a place where we can relax, where we are peaceful right?

If you come home, and your helper is not supportive, or have this argument, or this conflict, and all that, then it makes it difficult.

I don’t want conflict at home!

I think we want to be comfortable with each other. We all want a light hearted, fun and happy vibe helper! So how can we achieve it?

Positive reinforcement is the way to go! As a leader in your house, if you keep giving your helper to do stuff and none of it gets done, well it means bossing her around doesn’t work. “To do list” doesn’t work. Got to change your approach a little bit.

“I’m not talking you anymore” is the last thing you want to hear from your helper.

Sometimes, just communicate. Sometimes, we learnt through hard ways, when we are angry, in the heat of moment, lost your temper, we do silly things. Which after that, we regret. And in most case, in the end, we spent more money to fix the problem. It was a dumb idea.

There is ONE thing that can really make the whole situation better, and that is SMILING!

Yes, you hear me right! That is keep your cool and start SMILING!

Some people are born naturally friendly looking, they’re born with a face that says nice person! It’s because they don’t know how to STOP smiling. Even their eyes are smiling, when they are talking to you. Now, some of us, unfortunately, do not have a smiling face. We have a struck-up face! It’s what people call the resting bit*h face. It’s how we look when we’re resting, and can come across as fierce or scary when that’s not our intention at all!

But I can’t smile all the time?! You’re thinking.

Well, my answer is YES you can. And here are three great reasons why we should make the effort to smile all the time.

Reason number 1:

Everyone is better-looking when they are smiling! Even if you are conscious of your teeth or your gums, let me tell you right now, that you’re 100 times more beautiful when you are smiling. When we smile, we radiate joy and that in itself is stunning! It’s easier to talk things out with your helper.

Reason number 2:

It’s really really hard to feel miserable when you’re smiling all the times! And smiling when you’re not feeling happy isn’t fake, it’s called being mature enough to manage your own emotions. And in fact, when you are not happy, smiling is putting in the action of making yourself happy. And when you feel happy, you communicate better with your helper. And ask them to help and they will help!

Reason number 3:

It’s absolutely and a 100% free. So don’t be stingy with your smile. Smiling cost us nothing but it brings us so many awesome benefits. In fact, the question isn’t even why smile, it’s why NOT smile? Remember all this even if you are feeling angry or silly or awkward, smiling away to yourself while you’re doing your work because the other people, you’ll just come across as friendly and charming! So remember to smile more even at home! Your helper will be thinking that you are the best employer ever and she will never want to change!

Happy people attracts happy helpers! Smiling more pays off! :)